Harris O’Malley is Dr. NerdLove, a dating coach who gives advice to geeks of all stripes via his blog, podcast, YouTube channel, and column for Kotaku. Aiming to offset the toxic masculinity of The Red Pill and men’s rights activists, O’Malley encourages healthy platonic and romantic relationships, with video games being a shared interest in which to connect and remain connected with fellow geeks.
In this episode, I chat with Dr. NerdLove about his evolution from pick-up artist to feminist; how to meet geeks in World of Warcraft or PAX East; what games can keep a long-distance relationship going; whether to list your favorite games in your OkCupid online dating profile; how to negotiate and compromise when your partner doesn’t share your interests; and why dating sims aren’t good dating trainers.
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Links mentioned in this episode:
- Harris O’Malley, aka Dr. NerdLove
- “How Video Games Are Keeping Long-Distance Relationships Alive” by Javy Gwaltney for Game Informer
- Superior graphic novel by Mark Millar
- Dreadnought superhero novel by April Daniels
- Dating profile question by Andrew Brown (@PlayCritically)
- Super Seducer: How to Talk to Girls by Richard La Ruina (suspended from Kickstarter)
- Dream Daddy: A Dad Dating Simulator
- Universal Life Church
- Good Men Project
- Savage Lovecast podcast by Dan Savage
- Captain Awkward